17 Rules For Happiness

By Karl Moore

Every day, most of us focus on the grey clouds in the sky. Life is dim and gloomy, and showers are just minutes away. But we forget something. We don???t remember that just behind those clouds, the sun is beaming brightly ??? every single minute of every single day. These are 17 rules designed to shift your perspective, helping you to rediscover the happiness you may have forgotten.

Rule #1 ??? Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself! It???s not going to help the situation. It???ll only help you to wallow in a state of apathy, playing the victim. The kind of person that things happen to, but that can???t do anything about it. By stopping feeling sorry for yourself, you can actually get on and DO something about it. If you want to be happy ??? stop feeling sorry for yourself. ???Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in this world.??? -Helen Keller

Rule #2 ??? Be Grateful. Think of all the wonderful things you have to be grateful for right now. It could be your family. Or your health. Maybe your home. Your friends. Your brain. Your heart. Your spirit. We???ve all got amazing things in our own lives that make us smile with joy. And if we can count these blessings every day, we???ll discover a greater appreciation of the beautiful world we surround ourselves with. ???If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.??? -Meister Eckhardt

Rule #3 ??? Say Yes More. We fight against what happens to us in life, rather than allowing it to be as it is. We resist it, rather than accepting it. We say ???No!??? rather than saying ???Yes??? ??? or even just ???Okay.??? By saying ???Yes!??? more to life, we go with the flow. Things become more enjoyable and positive, less stressful and anxious, and often the situation turns out for the better regardless. ???I will say yes to every favor, request, suggestion and invitation. I will swear to say yes where once I would say no.??? ???Danny Wallace

Rule #4 ??? Follow Your Bliss. Bliss is what you???re doing when you???re wrapped up in the moment. When you???re so thrilled just to be doing it, it ceases even to be work anymore. Your bliss occurs when you???re living in the moment, and time doesn???t really matter anymore. It???s not for the money, it???s for the pleasure. ???When you follow your bliss, doors will open where you would not have thought there would be doors; and where there wouldn???t be a door for anyone else.??? ???Joseph Campbell

Rule #5 ??? Learn to Let Go. Remember, letting go doesn???t mean you ???forgive??? the person at the grocery store, or you ???allow??? that kind of behavior. It just means that you release the negative emotion inside of you. By releasing negative emotions, you???ll not only enjoy much more freedom in your life ??? you???ll also become more emotionally stable and less stressed too. ???By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try, the world is beyond the winning.??? ???Lao Tzu

Rule #6 ??? Do Random Acts of Kindness. The more we give, the more we receive. A Random Acts of Kindness or RAK is a small act of kindness that you grant to someone else in the world ??? for absolutely no reason whatsoever, without expecting anything in return. Just throw a little extra kindness out to the world ??? and watch how you find greater happiness starting to flood back into your own life. ???If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.??? -Dalai Lama

Rule #7 ??? Happiness Is Only Ever Now. We spend so much time waiting to be happy in the future, or worrying about the past, that we forget to live in the moment. But here???s the thing: Life is transient. The past has gone. The future is just a dream. The only time that truly exists ever is RIGHT NOW. RIGHT NOW is the ONLY time you can do or change ANYTHING in your life. And NOW is the only time you have. ???Few of us ever live in the present, we are forever anticipating what is to come or remembering what has gone.??? -Louis LArmor

Rule #8 ??? Experience, Don???t Hoard! Investing in experiences rather than material goods created greater lasting happiness. It doesn???thave to be big and it doesn???t have to be expensive. And you can always do it on your own, too. By living, and truly experiencing life, we feel more whole, fulfilled and authentic. So, experience ??? don???t hoard ??? and you will be happy. ???When youre curious, you find lots of interesting things to do.??? ???Walt Disney

Rule #9 ??? Appreciate Both Sides of the Coin. The truth is that in order for you to experience true happiness in your life, you must experience sadness. Without sadness, we really can???t even understand what happiness is. Just enjoy and embrace all your life adventures. And when seemingly negative things happen, remember that it???s just the duality of life. It???s just the other side of the coin. It???s required. It???s part of the equation. ???You don???t know when you???ve hit a peak until you???re coming down. And you don???t know when you???ve hit a trough until you???re climbing out. It???s all good.??? ???David Brent

Rule #10 ??? Be More Social. Countless studies on the science of happiness have turned up one single characteristic of the happiest and most successful people in society. They have a large social network! Don???t just wait for interesting people to stumble into your life. Keep going and going. Expand your social circle as far as you can. Be the person that walks through town and bumps into a dozen friends. ???Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.??? -Marcel Proust

Rule #11 ??? Love More! We must realize that we feel the most happy in life ??? when we are the one giving the love! The more we love others, the happier he became. The more we love the world around us, the happier we become. The more we love even our enemies, the happier we become. And best of all, WE can control the amount of love we give ??? and thereby control the amount of happiness we experience. ???Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.??? ???Barbara De Angelis

Rule #12 ??? Have a Dream. Dream are critical. They light up life. Without them, we become bored, and tired, and apathetic. So, take this opportunity to really clarify your dreams. Take a pen and paper and spend an hour figuring out what you really dream about. But whatever you do, make sure you have a dream. They???re incredibly important. Dreams are the spark plugs of the spirit. Make sure yours are ready for action. ???A person starts dying when they stop dreaming.??? ???Brian Williams

Rule #13 ??? Intention Sets Direction. Decide on where you???re going and how it???ll be for you ??? and it???ll happen. set your intention first. Make it clear that you???re going to have a great time, you???ll meet some fantastic people, and that it???s going to be wonderful. Set your general intention every morning and every night, too. The brighter and more positive, the better. Set your sunny intention ??? and you will be happy. ???Whether you think you can or you can???t, you???re right.??? ???Henry Ford

Rule #14 ??? Enjoy Simple Pleasures. It???s an attitude. The ability to appreciate the happiness, the beauty, the pleasure in the simple things around us. Remember the simple things that you truly enjoy. Then take time out to experience them again. Or even better, turn them into little daily or weekly rituals, filling your life with sunshine. Quite simply, enjoy simple pleasures and rituals ??? and you will be happy. ???Simplicity is the essence of happiness.??? -Cedric Bledsoe

Rule #15 ??? Accept What Is. By accepting, welcoming, embracing what is, you clear all of your emotions. Your thoughts gain more clarity. You become happier. You experience more freedom. If you can change things, after accepting them, you???ll have a sharper mind and more energy to do so. Pointless worrying ??? there???s nothing you can do about it. Shrug and smile about it, that???s life. ???Happiness is a function of accepting what is.??? ???Werner Erhard

Rule #16 ??? Zoom Out and Don???t Sweat. You never, ever know what is around the corner. So, try regularly ???zooming out??? of your current picture, and realizing the true priorities in your life. If you can, do it every day ??? particularly when you return home from work. Then kick back your shoes, and enjoy some quality time with family and friends. Life is short. ???If you do not raise your eyes you will think that you are the highest point.??? -Antonio Porchia

Rule #17 ??? Laugh, Dance, Smile! Surround yourself with happiness ??? wonderful music, dance classes, evenings with friends. Take time to laugh at the craziness of life! Splash out and enjoy to the max. True happiness, self-development, freedom, comes from inside ??? and is expressed externally in bright faces, a big smile, and plenty of laughing. Laugh at all of the silly problems you???ve been holding on to, so very well, for so long. ???A friendly look, a kindly smile, one good act, and life???s worthwhile.??? -Unknown

MY INSPIRATIONAL STORY OF THE DAY

This is a story about how important is being persistent and never give up, no matter how many failures you have experienced in the past.

A man was spending his holiday in Africa. One day he watched the elephants passing by. To his great surprise these giant strong animals were being held only by a small rope, tied to their front leg. Obviously, they could easily run away any moment. However, they did not.

Then he saw a trainer and asked him, how could this happen that not a single elephant makes an??attemp??to break free. The trainer explained: ???When the elephants are very young, we use the same size rope to tie them, and at that time it is enough to hold them. Gradually they grow up, get stronger, nevertheless they never try to get away, as they believe that the rope will still hold them.

The man was stunned. These strong animals could break free any time, but they did not, because they believed that this is impossible.

Sometimes people act like elephants, when they give up after the first failure. Remember, that failures are part of learning. If we want to succeed, we should never give up, but try and try again.

WORTH READING

CONVERSATION WITH GOD..
Me- I can???t find free time. Life has
become hectic.
God : Activity gets you busy.
But productivity gets you free.
Me : Why has life become complicated
now?
God : Stop analyzing life.
Just live it.
Me : Why are we constantly unhappy?
God : Worrying has become your
habit. That???s why you are not happy.
Me: Why do good people always
suffer?
God : Diamond cannot be polished
without friction. Gold cannot be
purified without fire. Good people go
through trials, but don???t suffer.
With that experience their life
becomes better, not bitter.
Me : You mean to say such
experience is useful?
God : Yes. In every term, Experience
is a hard teacher. She gives the test
first and the lessons afterwards.
Me : Bcoz of so many problems, we
don???t know where we are heading???
God : If you look outside you will not
know where you are heading. Look
inside.
Eyes provide sight. Heart provides the
way.
Me : Why does failure hurt more than
moving in the right direction?
God : Success is a measure as
decided by others. Satisfaction is a
measure as decided by you.
Me : In tough times, how do you stay
motivated?
God : Always look at how far you
have come rather than how far you
have to go. Always count your
blessing, not what you are missing.
Me : What surprises you about
people?
God : When they suffer they ask, ???why
me???? When they prosper, they never
ask ???Why me????
Me : How can I get the best out of
life?
God : Face your past without regret.
Handle your present with confidence.
Prepare for the future without fear.
Me : One last question. Sometimes I
feel my prayers are not answered.
God : There are no unanswered
prayers.
Keep the faith and drop the fear.
Life is a mystery to solve, not a
problem to resolve.
Trust me. Life is wonderful if you
know how to live.

MY MANTRA OF THE DAY

A farmer had a dog who used to sit by the roadside waiting for vehicles to come around. As soon as one came he would run down the road, barking and trying to overtake it. One day a neighbor asked the farmer “Do you think your dog is ever going to catch a car?” The farmer replied, “That is not what bothers me. What bothers me is what he would do if he ever caught one.” Many people in life behave like that dog who is pursuing meaningless goals. Life is hard by the yard, but by the inch, it’s a cinch.

Once upon a time, there was an unfortunate poor man. His home was also very poor ??? a small and empty house, where mice made their nests and spiders made their webs. People tried to avoid coming into his house ??? why should they stick their noses into those poor ruins? And the poor man thought that poverty is the reason of his misfortunes ??? his eternal destiny. So once, the poor man met a wizard and complained to him about his poverty and miserable life. The wizard felt sorry for the poor man and gave him an unprecedented vase. And said: – This is a magical vase that will save you from poverty. The poor man took the vase and wanted to sell it at first and then spend the money on alcohol, as usual, besides, why would he need such a beautiful thing? But then he started admiring the vase and couldn???t take it to the market. He brought the vase home, put it on the table and started admiring it. – It???s not right for such a beautiful thing to be empty, – the poor man thought. So he picked some wildflowers and put them into the vase. It became even more beautiful. – Not good, – the poor man though again, – that such a beautiful thing stands next to a spider web.
So the poor man started cleaning his house from spider webs, sweeping out cockroaches and mice, cleaning the dust, washing the floor and the walls, whitening the ceiling. And it became clear that his house wasn???t poor, but rather warm and cosy. And the poor man wasn???t a poor man anymore, but a hard working host, who had no time for thoughts about misfortune.